Winston Churchill explained in his famous quote that, “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” In reality, a person’s attitude in life really is all important. Much of my counseling work can center around helping people accept their reality and I aim to help shape the proper attitude. Many, if not most people are guilty of having poor attitudes about themselves, the world, and God. Unfortunately, it is human nature to compare ourselves to others. Jealousy and envy are a toxic … [Read more...] about How to Avoid Jealousy and Envy
Four Signs Your Marriage is Doomed to Fail
The book of Revelation depicts in Chapter 6:1-8 a scroll in God’s right hand that is sealed with seven seals. Jesus opens the first four seals, which summons four horsemen. These four horsemen are meant to represent conquest, war, famine, and death, respectively. The esteemed psychologist and marriage researcher, Dr. John Gottman, has come up with his own version of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. His research has found that an unhappy marriage can increase your chances of becoming … [Read more...] about Four Signs Your Marriage is Doomed to Fail
The Seeds of Bitterness
One of the hardest things to do in life is to let go of bitter feelings towards others, ourselves, and God. Bitterness is defined as an attitude of extended and intense anger and hostility. It is often joined by resentment and a desire to “get even”. It is the result of not forgiving someone and letting hurt and anger grow until the pain and resentment hurt the person’s view of life. Bitterness is also a sin that can destroy life. Romans 12:19 commands us not to seek revenge, but instead to let … [Read more...] about The Seeds of Bitterness
Man of Integrity
For a man, there are very few compliments that hold higher merit than being called a man of integrity. A good definition of integrity is, “The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles.” As a counselor, I work with many men who strive to be men of integrity but often do not know how to live their lives in a way that represents this attribute. It can be difficult to be a man who is always honest and also lives by a set of strict principles and values. Many people will end up … [Read more...] about Man of Integrity
Turning Trauma into Strength and Growth
Anyone who knows me is well aware of my interest and fascination in the Batman story. As I’ve grown from a teenager who was fanatical into a grown man who is also still fanatical, I’ve come to realize that the reason I like the stories about Batman is because they are deeply psychological and show that growth and change are possible. Batman only became the “superhero” because of the tragedy and trauma he faced as a child that he eventually learned to overcome. Before becoming the hero, Bruce … [Read more...] about Turning Trauma into Strength and Growth
Make Time for your Marriage
Most couples when they first start dating are free from the numerous responsiblities that come with marriage. Once married, your life can become complicated with careers, financial decisions, parenting, and balancing out other social relationships. What often gets left behind and neglected is being able to enjoy quality time with one another. When my wife and I met, neither of us had any idea how much life changes once you start adding all of these responsilbilities. Our lives were focused on … [Read more...] about Make Time for your Marriage
New Article Posted Online About Enabling
Resolute Counseling was recently in the news again! An article written by Michael Linn was posted on the Public Opinion website last night. Each month, Michael Linn writes a monthly advice column for The Public Opinion which is posted on their online version and also the print edition. This month's article is describing the problems with enabling behaviors. Click here to read the article! … [Read more...] about New Article Posted Online About Enabling
Growth and Progress for Resolute Counseling
We are seeing plenty of growth and progress as we prepare for the opening of the Resolute Counseling office. Our opening day is January 4th, 2016 and excitement is building for both my wife and I. We cannot express the gratitude we have for the support and prayers we have received from friends, family, and the clientele I serve. Major credit goes out to the clients who have been, at times, even more excited than me to see this new business open! Many of them have said they can't wait to be … [Read more...] about Growth and Progress for Resolute Counseling
Creating Habits that lead to Mental Toughness
There are many people in the mental health community that I admire for their wisdom and ideas. Dr. Travis Bradbury is one of them. He is co-author of the book Emotional Intelligence 2.0. He has written a wonderful article that discusses the important habits of mentally tough people. Click here to read the article. As a counselor, I try to teach all the people I work with about the majority of what Dr. Bradbury discusses in this article. Holistic health and wellness is dependent on a … [Read more...] about Creating Habits that lead to Mental Toughness
Tips for Reducing Stress During the Holiday Season
For some the Christmas season is often seen as The Most Wonderful Time of the Year. While the lyrics of this song can ring true for many people, the reality for several others is that the change in seasons often brings about more negative than positive feelings. Thesenegative feelings often result in a high amount of grief, sadness, fear, and also anxiety. There are several factors that cause depressive symptoms to intensify during the holiday season. Here are a few: Less Active: There … [Read more...] about Tips for Reducing Stress During the Holiday Season
